For many families, holidays are family times and when memories are created. It is during this time that you think about past holiday celebrations, which your mom was probably a part of, so it's natural to think of her more. The first holidays are often the most difficult as individuals attempt to find comfort. For some, carrying on traditions is important, while for others creating new traditions and avoiding what was done in the past is best. This is also a time when messages of joy and happiness are repeated in the media. In reality, individuals who have lost someone may be feeling anything but joyous and happy. Recognizing one's feeling during this difficult time is important as you cope with the holiday season.

Even though your mother isn't with you physically, you can acknowledge her life through prayers or a time of remembrance, lighting candles in her honor, eating one of her favorite foods, preparing her special dish, or sharing memories of her.

For more information on grief and loss, visit: http://www.extension.org/pages/Loss_and_Grief_-_Holidays.

You may also find information through the Hospice Foundation of America: http://www.hospicefoundation.org/journeys/holiday_memories.asp.