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Prevent Sibling Rivalry and Jealously By Teaching Brothers and Sisters to Help

Last Updated: September 26, 2008

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Parenting Tips for Your 9 Month Old Baby


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This can be a hard time for brothers and sisters. Now that your baby is moving around, he can get into toys and the older children's favorite things. It is also common for older brothers and sisters to rush by your baby as he tries to stand up, knocking him down. Sometimes, they grab their toys from your baby's grasp.

Babies need to form a good relationship with their older brothers and sisters. You can make this happen.

Prevent problems. Give older children a place of their own where their things are safe from your baby. A drawer that's out of your baby's reach will do. Or let them play on the kitchen table, away from your baby.

Teach children to help. Show your baby's siblings some of the amazing things he can do, and point out problems he cannot yet solve. Show them how to teach the baby new things. Suggest things they can do with the little one, such as rolling a ball to him or reading him a book. Another good activity is to say, “Where is Baby’s chin (or other body part)?" Naming body parts is a great game that brothers and sisters can play with the baby in the car. Be sure to compliment the older children when they play with the baby.

Point out to your older children how much your baby looks up to them. Show your baby’s older sister when your baby tries to copy her, how he wants to be like her. By treating an older child as a partner in caring for the baby, you will help her gain a sense of cooperation and responsibility.


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Try to give each child some of your full attention each day. Your children may resent your baby if he always interrupts their time with you. You can also make special activities for “big children only.” This could be something as simple as inviting a friend over or going to a friend’s house.

When problems arise, take the time to teach children how to share, take turns, or stay out of each other’s way. You don’t have to get angry or take sides. It takes a long time for children to learn to see things from someone else’s point of view.


Learn more about Your 9 Month Old Baby from Just In Time Parenting. You can also go to our Resource Links for additional information on child care and development.
Note to Parents: When reading this newsletter, remember: Every baby is different. Children may do things earlier or later than described here. This newsletter gives equal space and time to both sexes. If he or she is used, we are talking about all babies.
References: These materials were adapted by authors from Extension Just in Time Parenting Newsletters in California, Delaware, Georgia, Iowa, Kentucky, Maine, Tennessee, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Mexico, and Wisconsin.

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