Parenting Tips for Your 21-22 Month Old Toddler
Have you ever noticed that your toddler seems to act up when you really want her to behave well? You are not alone. Although there are no perfect solutions, the suggestions below may help:
- Be reasonable. Don’t expect too much. Try to avoid situations that toddlers are too young to handle. The development and characteristics section in each issue of this newsletter gives you clues about what is reasonable to expect at each age.
If your toddler fits the description for months 21 to 22, you know that she likes to do things her own way, doesn’t want to share toys, and may tear books. This may mean that play with age mates should be brief and visits to the library well-supervised.
- Prepare. Toddlers this age may not act well in public, so be sure you have explained to your toddler before you go out what you will be doing together. Tell her how you want her to behave, and what will happen if she doesn’t mind you.
You could tell her how you will reward her good behavior. This reward could be a hug or a story on your way home. If you expect her to be bored, hungry, or restless, take food or toys to keep her happy.
- Follow through. If your toddler is being good, praise her good behavior. If she is not minding you, try to keep calm (not easy to do) and follow through as you had discussed with her earlier.
Try not to embarrass her or yourself in front of others. If possible, take her aside and tell her how you want her to act. Don’t give in to her. If you do, you are rewarding bad behavior and she will be more likely to do it again.
- Redirect. When your toddler acts out suggest a new activity. Telling her “no” or “don’t” is not enough. If she fusses in the grocery store, ask her to help you find her favorite cereal or the apples. If this doesn’t work, tell her you will take her outside the store. Remain there with her until she calms down.
- Have patience. No one said parenting was easy. Remember, using good parenting skills now will pay off later. Life will become easier and more enjoyable for both you and your child.
