Juggling Juniper: Caregivers Who Juggle Activities and Other Responsibilities

Story: Mr. Juniper believes no one else can provide the same kind of care for his wife. He remembers the excellent care she gave him after a painful back injury. He vowed he would do the same for her. His wife has had a number of complications from hip replacement surgery. She needs daily help with personal care. She receives physical therapy three days a week. Mr. Juniper is doing all the cooking, laundry and housework. He works full time but gave up his weekly golf game. He does not accept invitations when friends call. The Junipers' children have stopped offering to help because he does not want it. Mr. Juniper is a proud man. He believes husbands and wives take care of each other and should not ask for help.

Description: Caregivers in this situation try to juggle multiple roles and duties. They have a comfortable relationship with their partner. They are not troubled by what they are doing but just don't have enough time to do everything that needs to be done. They are not considering placing the individual receiving care in any type of care facility or giving up caregiving themselves. However, they find caregiving activities are impinging on other aspects of their lives. This can include a job or career, involvement in civic or faith activities, and time for other family members. Community agencies can inform caregivers of resources that will ease their overall workload and encourage them to use services. Some caregivers may need help adjusting their personal expectations or code of ethics before accepting help from others.