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Talking with Children about Natural Disasters

Last Updated: July 31, 2008 Related resource areas: Agrosecurity and Floods, Parenting

Points to remember when talking to children about traumatic events.

Released July 29, 2008

DURHAM, N.H. -- Tornadoes touching down in New Hampshire are without question newsworthy. However the many images of the devastating effects of the storms in the media may be confusing and difficult for children to understand.

Very young children may see the many reports on television in the days after the event and believe that the tornadoes are continuing to occur day after day, unable to understand that these are the same images being repeated.

In addition, many children's families or friends have been directly or indirectly affected by the storms and/or tornadoes. When talking to children about traumatic events such as these, here are a few points to bear in mind.

Remember that not talking about an event doesn't mean children aren't aware of it.
Listen first, then use questions to help you understand your child's emotions and concerns. Ask: What are your thoughts about that? What made you think about that?
Acknowledge feelings; recognize that children will express their feelings differently at different ages. Young children will express feelings through behavior, often reverting to younger behavior. They may become loud and aggressive or shy and withdrawn
Answer children's questions as completely as possible appropriate to their age. Children may become anxious if they feel an adult is hiding something. Try not to give too much information. Provide simple, direct facts, while reassuring children as much as is possible.

Parents and caregivers may feel they don't have all the answers or know what will happen in the future So what can parents do?

Take time to think about and cope with your own feelings.
Be willing to discuss difficult issues with your children. You may not have all the answers, but give what information you do have and acknowledge the sad and complex nature of traumatic events
Acknowledge children's feelings and perspectives
Remember that routines and predictable structure are reassuring for children.
Remember to take care of yourself during stressful times. Eat well and try to get some exercise.

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